I've been kicking around the idea of writing this article for almost a year now. The main thing that's kept me from doing so is the fact that the internet already has a vast array of websites about this very topic. As someone who hates all the copycat websites that clutter the internet, I didn't want to be a hypocrite. Then I remembered that I often go to a different website with the same content just because I prefer the way that that site is written. That is why it is my hope that you view this article as an educational, easy to follow guide to everything you need to know about cunnilingus.
Enjoy yourself
This is the number one most important tip I can give. The more you enjoy yourself, the more she is going to enjoy everything. Really get into it. Think of what you would want if you were on the other end.
Pay attention!
After enjoying yourself, paying attention is the next most important thing. You should be paying attention to her responses to your actions. For instance, does she seem to like what you're doing? You can tell by her body movement, sounds and heartbeat. This is strongly related to my next point:
Don't chase and don't retreat
Let the woman guide the amount of pressure you use. Never chase her across the bed. If she moves back, lighten up the pressure. If the pushes into you, push back until she stops, then keep that amount of pressure.
Slow down
This is a commonly overlooked but very important tip, especially for men. Men tend to like things fast and hard and often don't realize that women are different. Start out as slow as you possibly can, then try going a little faster. If you get positive feedback, continue; if you don't, slow back down and keep on going.
We all scream for ice cream
Possibly my favorite move--which I can't take credit for inventing--is the ice cream lick. It's very simple and amazingly effective. Start as low down on the vulva as possible and take the longest, slowest lick you can. It should take almost a minute. Use as much of the area of your tongue as possible, as if you were licking and ice cream cone. For this stroke I try not to even move at all and just get the pressure right. If you are applying enough pressure your tongue will gradually move.
Don't be peckish
By that I mean use your whole mouth. Think of cunnilingus more as making out more than anything else. Would you make out by only using your tongue and never touching lips? If not, then get your whole mouth in there!
Use all your resources
Don't stop with your whole mouth. Why do you think humans have hands? That's right, to use them during cunnilingus! And why stop there? Get your whole body into it. As the great James Brown said: "I want to get into it, man, you know? (Go ahead! Yeah!) Like a, like a sex machine, man, (Yeah!) movin', doin' it, y'know?" *"Hitting it and quitting it" not recommended
Pressure points
While you're using your hands, try putting pressure in some different places. You might be pleasantly surprised. Some favorite places include the top center of each leg where the transition between the legs and hip bone is and right around the tail bone.
Keep it interesting
The same thing over and over can get very boring. Do different things.
Don't stop
In direct contradiction of the last point, don't stop doing something that's working. You have to be careful to make sure that it's still pushing the right buttons though. The second it stops, you need to change strokes.
ABC's
A common tip is to trace the ABC's with your tongue. Like many people, I wouldn't recommend it. Instead I would simply recommend trying a bunch of different strokes. Side to side, up and down, clockwise, counterclockwise, just up. Remembering her favorites is just as important!
Don't go straight for the clit.
Keep things interesting. That's not the only stimulating part on her body you know.
Not just foreplay
Don't get me wrong, it's great during foreplay, but bust it out in the middle of sex every now and then. I assure you that it's equally pleasurable then, if not more.
Orgasm != End
Most women can have more than one orgasm in a row, so don't stop at the first one! Even for the last one, it doesn't hurt to lightly stick around. Be careful though, it's very easy for things to get over stimulated and oversensitive.
Biology class
It never hurts to brush up on your female anatomy, especially if this is your first time. The more comfortable you are and the better you know your surroundings, the better the experience will be for everyone involved.
Don't be afraid to ask
You can learn a lot about what a woman likes just by trying different things and paying attention. However, you'll never know everything until she tells you herself. It can be an awkward subject to bring up, but it can greatly enhance your sex life.
